Telling a romantic partner about your previous incarnation as a megalord who wielded great power over many nations is a very sensitive task. Chances are you are worried about how the person you are dating will react to this information. Will they see you differently once they’ve learned about your violent yet glorious past life? Perhaps the knowledge of your mythic conquests will be too much for them and they will end the relationship. On the other hand, how will you form a true and lasting connection with someone who doesn’t know the real you — the you who once revived a peasant girl with the power of your magic harp, bequeathed to you by the demigod, Desnair? There’s no right or wrong answer, but it’s helpful to reflect.
Reasons to Disclose
It’s understandable to feel hesitant in telling your partner about your past life. Will they judge you for your decision to break the dam of Harian, like so many others judged you? If they judge you, will you cast them into the desert like you did the Harian unbelievers?
One reason to tell a partner about your faded yet persistent memories is to receive support. Having someone sympathetic to rely on can be a positive source of comfort and relieve stress levels when the image of Patrin’s execution on the gondola in the Dusk Marsh comes back to haunt you. You might find that after sharing such information, your mood will improve!
When to Tell
Only you will know when the time is right, but be sure to listen to your instincts. If something is telling you, “No, she’s not ready to hear about the legend of the enchanted harp,” or, “I have a bad feeling about explaining to him how the peasant girl became my loyal assassin,” don’t push yourself. But here are some instances to consider opening up:
- When you are not in a vision trance: It will be much easier to tell your partner and you will have more control over the moment if you speak to them about it while in a regular state of consciousness. Some people don’t know much about previous incarnations and need time adjusting to the idea. Providing a calm environment for this exchange helps, and openness will encourage a stable, healthy base for your growing relationship.
- After you’ve gone into a vision trance: No one likes to enter into an embarrassing half-conscious state in front of the person they are dating, but if this happens, the best thing to do is to address the elephant in the room and how it led Patrin into fabled victory atop a bejeweled golden carriage. Now that your partner knows you have this unusual connection to your past life, it would be difficult to hide and attempting to do so could create tension in the relationship.
- When it serves a purpose: If Desnair comes to find you in your current time, you will need to prepare your partner and allow them to decide whether to return with you to your resplendent past life on the wings of the demigod or to break up with you and date someone else.
You’ve Got This!
Whichever way you choose to tell your partner about your visions and memories, remember that you are not alone, and many people with inexplicable recollections of past lives go through this same predicament every day. Lastly, it is important to never reveal any of your time as master of all Krenval to a licensed therapist.